Communication or Termination...?

Hi.
First off, thank you for stopping by my blog. It really means a lot to me. I know it's new but I am trying to get my thoughts and feelings out there, and hoping that someone can relate, a la Carrie Bradshaw lol

Anyway, the real reason for this post is because I honestly have no clue what I am doing at this point.
Everyone claims that communication can help solve everything. It can mend broken fences and even save them from breaking in the first place....BUT what do you do when it seems like its the very thing that is tearing your relationship apart? (and not just romantic ones, but friendships and family ties as well)
Hear me out.
I am trying to be more open with someone, and they are doing the same with me but it is getting to the point where I am starting to think that this is not a good idea. And I am starting to re-think voicing myself and my feelings because every time I do, it is creating a problem with this person.
The funny thing is that he feels the same. Everytime he has something to say, it usually creates a problem for us as well. And yet we still try.
I am at the point where I am just trying to be as honest as possible but remaining quiet on most of my thoughts and feelings. What really doesn't make sense is how I am making this person feel like they can't talk to me...
I am one for understanding and compassion and empathy.
I like to think I am patient.
I just don't understand. I really don't.
And the more I try, the more I give up hope on trying to understand.
This person feels like they can't tell me how they feel or what they think because I give them the impression that I don't like what they feel or think and dismiss it.
But I honestly don't feel that way.
I am doing the best I can to understand this person's point of view.
It is not like I hate what they say or what they feel or what they do. Sometimes I don't agree with them or I try to make them understand that that is not what I intended. Sometimes I don't like what they are telling me but I don't feel like I dismiss it, instead I think I embrace it and tell the person that they shouldn't have to tolerate my b.s.
I honestly feel like I am stuck. If I agree with this person, then somehow I am patronizing them. If I disagree then somehow I am telling them I don't like their honesty.
Now, I am just saying F*$%# it. This communication thing is really a one way street to terminating this relationship. 
It's not saving anything.
It's not solving anything.
It's not helping anyone.
It's hurting and damaging us.
So what's the point? I am trying here...and he is trying too.
But at the end of the day, we are accomplishing nothing. And I am just telling him to forget about everything. I am sure that anyone else would have left by now. No one deserves to be patronized or ridiculed or be dismissed. Everyone deserves to be heard. I guess it's true...

Silence is golden.

Best,
Karina